What’s the big deal about marriage anyway? In 2019 does it really matter if you are married or not?
The government gives unmarried couples more benefits depending on the living situation, so should I look for a spouse?
And if I find someone, should we just live together or actually tie the knot?
These are excellent questions, questions that I get all the time and I bet you thought of them once or twice.
Let’s be honest for a moment. We live in a Post-Christian culture. This means that every view of society is not based on the Bible but based on what people feel and think.
There was a time when the sociological structure was based on Scripture; however, this is long gone.
Because we live in a different time and culture I believe we, as Christians, should handle these questions with love and simple answers.
Whether you are married or not I think you will find these thoughts helpful in spurring those close to you in the right way.
Let’s look at 4 points to really drive this question home, “Why Should I Get Married?”
(1) Marriage is more than something we are “supposed” to do.
Marriage makes a person Holy. Trust me I have proven this fact true over and over again.
When you live with someone and become one, it is impossible not to know that person’s faults and failures. Someone knowing your faults and failures will inevitably help you to see them.
This is truly a great thing, it can bring you closer to God if you embrace it. This will naturally make you more selfless in your words and actions.
(2) You gain a lifelong friend.
We can all agree that friends are needed in this broken world. There are many times we need to know that someone has our back no matter what the situation may be.
Marriage is a friendship bond that’s unbreakable. It really is a “ride till you die” mentality. Living in constant friendship with your spouse will make life thrilling and exciting.
In the moments of grief and sorrow, being married allows you to lean in on another person while navigating the pains of this world.
Keep in mind.
Just living with someone doesn’t count. It doesn’t count because it is outside of God’s design. It is only a matter of time before that relationship loses its vitality.
(3) There is passion in marriage.
For the guys. Who doesn’t want to have a beautiful wife to go home to every night?
By the way, don’t expect your wife to meet your needs if you are not meeting hers.
What man doesn’t want a wife that admires him, lifts him up and enables him to be the strongest leader on earth?
For the gals. Who doesn’t want to have a husband that will discuss all the things going on in your life and your children’s lives? Who doesn’t want a husband that will listen and show emotional support every day about your passions and goals?
Of course, who wouldn’t want a man that will pick up the dishes and vacuum the floor for you because he loves you!
(4) Marriage is just fun.
I remember being single and always trying to find out what my friends were up to the following weekend. Sometimes that got old and exhausting.
I also remember marrying my wife and knowing she would be my best friend forever. I still want to do everything with her and experience new things like any best friend would.
I gained a lifelong best friend. Marrying the one you love will bring massive amounts of joy and excitement to your life. Don’t miss out on that just because culture says something else.
I live in the same world, and navigating this place can be extensively taxing on my brain; however, the Bible is so clear and simple.
Hebrews 13:4-5: “Marriage must be respected by all, and the marriage bed kept
God’s design is the man and woman to become one in marriage. Paul does say that some will be able to go through life alone and fully serve God, but this is not the case for the majority.
Rest in assurance that if God designs something it will produce great things. When we try and manufacture our own version of life we get outside of God’s design.
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