Do you ever wish that people would not be so critical and opinionated of you and others?
I have to look inward and make sure I am not one of those people from time to time. God has given us an amazing defense mechanism.
That defense mechanism is God’s anointed Spirit fighting in us and for us. Wow, how cool is that?
I will jump right into Scripture on this one because it is so encouraging and empowering to know that God He fights for us.
Isaiah 52:12: “For you will not leave in a hurry, and you will not have to take flight; because the LORD is going before you, and the God of Israel is your rear guard.”
What a promise to sink ourselves in today. God goes before us and after us as He fights our battles. God can do a much better job at this than we can.
What’s that one or two people in your life that you need out of the way to accomplish the vision God gave you?
Remember, if you do not have a vision then it is urgent to spend time in prayer to determine your steps. God has given us all a purpose and it isn’t just to breathe air and pay taxes.
Instead of thinking about that person as an obstacle think of them as one who God ordained to be in that exact position in your life for a reason. God will remove that person or they will step up in time; however, the worst thing that you can do is take matters into your own hands unless it is necessary.
Let’s look at 4 ways you can handle resistance in your life…..
(1) Healthy criticism comes from true friends
There is a major difference between friendly criticism and resistance. It is imperative to know these differences so that you know how to respond and when to let God fight for you.
Friendly criticism comes from someone who has no other motive than to see you grow closer to Christ.
There are a few men in my life that I completely value what they say because I know that they have no other motive than to see me grow. They want to see me succeed and don’t like to watch me make bad decisions.
I am very intentional about speaking with these men in my life. When I speak with them I am empowered to keep pushing forward and trusting that God will fight for me and the vision He has given me.
It’s important to make sure you know who your true friends are. Most of the time your true friends will stick with you even when you have nothing to give them.
(2) Resistance comes from anyone with an agenda and no real vision in their life
Resistance comes from anyone who has an agenda and wants to push their own opinions upon you in order to
Most people who resist you are hyper intentional on making you think they are your biggest fan. Always beware of those who go out of their way to overly saturate you with accolades and try to prove themselves to you.
I call this the red flag approach. When someone approaches you and you get the feeling they are setting themselves up for an agenda with you, throw the red flag up in your mind.
I observe people very carefully, it’s something I do naturally. I don’t speak much in initial conversations with others because I am paying attention to what is being said.
This may be weird, but this is what I do. If I feel that a person is paving a way to push their opinions or agenda on me I picture myself on a football field in full Referee attire. Then I see myself running towards the person throwing a red flag at them!
Yeh, I know that may be a bit much; however, it helps me remember who I need to look out for.
(3) Pave the way for impact by not acting on impulse
When you remain blameless in resistance you leave room for mutual respect. Let’s face it, someone will always think they know more than you and can do a better job than you can.
We all know this isn’t true because God put you in the position you are in for a reason and not that other person. Your goal should be to make a Gospel impact on as many lives as possible.
This means even making an impact on the people that oppose you!
Loving like Jesus doesn’t mean bowing down to resistance, it means having confidence in the one who has your back. Keep pressing forward toward the vision He has given you.
(4) At the end of the day, lay your head down in peace
I started doing something recently that changed my life. I no longer check my emails after work hours. I know this doesn’t sound like much, but it really is.
I get emails that demand my time and energy, some of which do not line up with the vision the Lord has given me. I choose to not open my emails again until the next morning when my mind is fresh and I am not spending time with family.
This is the point:
Give attention to the things worth your time and focus. If you constantly give way and focus on the non-essential aspects of your calling then you will not step in the direction of the vision God has given you.
Remember, God fights for you.
He goes before you.
He goes after you.
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