I was faced with a hard truth some weeks back regarding my wife and I.
This survey pointed out that I was not giving my wife the attentive time she was asking for when she spoke to me. I have to be honest, this was difficult for me to hear.
I have part of that survey on my iPhone screen as a
I long to see my wife glow with joy in her relationship with God. I am filled with excitement when I see her encouraged by our three little boys. I make it a point each day to meet her needs so that her day will be full of joy.
We need to constantly remind ourselves how important our commitment of time is to our spouses. Church service and church ministries should not get in the way of that quality time either.
I understand some churches have Sunday evening services, and I don’t understand why that has to happen. Sundays can be such a sweet moment of uninterrupted time with family. We have been enjoying our time together every Sunday.
I do my best not to schedule anything at my church because I want to protect that time for my congregation also. I want the family that I serve with to have every opportunity to enjoy that time together and not worry about church activities.
God is so faithful in spite of my poor attempts at managing time. I over scheduled my self every month for the first 3 years in ministry! My wife was so gracious to me during this time.
Our children deserve our time also. For a pastor, the lure of ministry can be so enticing and exciting. We have to remember who is important and who is first. I am not saying that ministry isn’t important. I am saying that family is more important.
My children are such a joy to me. I am sitting in a hotel room right now in Birmingham, AL missing them terribly. I cannot wait to pick them up and kiss them all over their little faces. Yes, I will pick up my wife and kiss her too.
I can’t help but be overwhelmed with love for my family.
It hurts when I am not with them. I long to be with them and watch every step of growth they take. My purpose is to share how they can be saved from their sin and believe in the One who conquered sin.
What a reward.
What a blessing.
Oh God please fire up our hearts for an urgency to share Jesus into the little hearts of our children. May we raise up a mighty army of Jesus followers willing to lay down their lives for you!
Husband, wife, brother, sister, child hear this: There is no greater blessing than Jesus Christ dwelling in you with all His power and glory. Look at your family right now, lift your hands and thank God for His rich mercy and goodness in your life.
No matter the season you are going through devote yourself to your family. It’s the biggest return paying investment you can ever make.
I learned these two points and I thought it would be helpful to you.
(1) Your family will be there when others will not
When life crashes down and no one seems to be around, your family is at home.
When you lose that great paying job and your coworkers leave your side, your family is at home.
When you find out you are diagnosed with an illness, your family is at home.
Trust that your family is the Lord’s biggest gift to you. Have you given them your undivided attention lately? Do you need to turn off your phone and spend some real time with them?
(2) Trust the Lord through your spouse
God will speak to you through your spouse. It’s not the criticism I am speaking of, it’s the quiet voice of encouragement and love. These moments of life-giving words will bring you closer to Jesus and each other.
Don’t forget the influence you have on your spouse’s heart.
Yes, Jesus is first.
But, Remember this:
When a man and a woman come together God joins them as one. They go through the difficult seasons as one. They tiptoe through the exciting and fun seasons together as one.
Grab your spouses hand and commit to them you will be there no matter the cost. Lay down your life for Jesus in the arms of your spouse, serving Him by serving your spouse.
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